“Every writer I know has trouble writing” – Joseph Heller

Writer’s block

Having an active blog or website does not necessarily make of an individual a writer but it does allow us the freedom to express ourselves and to have our say regarding various discussion topics.

I enjoy penning down my thoughts and opinions about certain things and I find it much easier expressing myself through writing than I do verbally, even though lately writing has not been as easy for me as it used to be.

I have heard about writer’s block and the difficulty of writing when there is no motivation or urge to do so.  This is what I have experienced when I wrote the last few of my blogs topics, I felt as if it was just words with no meaning, no emotion and now I know why.  After stumbling across this quote by Joseph Heller, I now know that there are indeed others who also experience this obstacle therefore I will continue to write as if there is no block, no brick wall, and no difficulty.


Time or money?

Finding a balance

This question makes me think of how some of us spend all hours of the day at work or busy with work doings.  Think of the career man or woman who has back-to-back meetings all day, and then business dinners and dealings with clients in the evenings…most importantly they also have and a family at home who might not get much of his or her time.

Old folks used to say that money is the root to all evil and I think to an extent this phrase is true if you think of how much of our time we spend doing our jobs in order to earn money instead of spending our time on the things that really should matter most.  In my opinion, I would say that it is important that we measure to what point we are willing to trade our time for money and to realise that there should be no need to choose between the two; the trick is simply to find a balance.

Do you think crying is a sign of weakness?

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Emotion is one of the most important things that make us human and by showing emotion does not make you a weaker person, just like by sitting in a garage would not make you a vehicle.

I believe the eyes are windows to the soul and that tears are there to wash out all the frustrations, anger, hurt, suppressed feelings, etc.  In many families, boys are raised thinking that men should not cry and that crying is something women do when they can’t control their emotions, quite frankly I blame society for this ridiculous impression.  Emotion is the ultimate form of character because if you have no emotion you have no personality – or at least it then means that you have a very cold one.

Crying in my opinion is never a sign of weakness but rather is a sign of strength.

Why I have conversations?


Wikipedia defines conversation as a form of interactive, spontaneous communication between two or more people, (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Conversation).  From this definition I will extract the words interactive and spontaneous to explain why I have conversations.

Communication forms a very big part of my daily life and of who I am.  I converse at work, at university, with my friends and family, etc. using various methods, be it face-to-face communication, on-line communication, via mobile or telephonically.  I prefer conversing face-to-face because not only does this allow for interactive and spontaneous conversation, unlike with on-line communication whereby you have to wait on a response from the other individual, but with face-to-face communication one can interpret non-verbal communication better.

I simply love engaging with all kinds of people so therefore, having conversations keeps me sane.  I have been told that I have a very bubbly personality, though I am not quite sure if that is always such a good thing because once I get excited about something it is very hard to keep me quiet. 

It is Edward Gibbon who said that conversation enriches the understanding, and in the words of Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, I conclude this blog:

“A single conversation across the table with a wise man is better than ten years of studying books.”

Do you ask enough questions or do you settle for what you know?

Being inquisitive should be a trait for everyone to have because how would we know anything if we do not ask questions.  Asking a lot of questions do not necessarily imply that you are being nosy, it simply means that you value intelligence instead of merely settling for what you know or what you might have heard from others.

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I would say the predicament would not so much be the matter of asking enough questions but rather whether or not you are asking the right questions that allow an individual to become a better thinker and expanding the human mind, which is indeed a wonderful thing.

I love exploring new things and asking all kinds of questions especially if I want to deepen my understanding and knowledge regarding certain things.  I have once read somewhere that the ability to think is based on the ability to ask questions, as well as the ability to consider asking important questions.  This would particularly apply in a work environment where it is expected of us to constantly analyze new information and if we do not ask any questions, we will never know if we are on the right track.  Therefore, asking the right questions would ultimately allow us to become more effective thinkers.  Any questions?

Try a cliché

Whether you like clichés or not, we all use it or hear it being used by colleagues, friends and family.  Clichés are phrases that have been overused to the point of language teachers telling us to “put on our thinking caps”.  When using clichés in conversation, it is important to realise that it can greatly affect the mood of the receiver, and it is for this reason I wonder what the use of clichés mean and say about good communication structure.

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Love is blind” – this has got to be the most used cliché of all suggesting that love makes us unmindful to the faults of the one we love.

Laughter is the best medicine” – a very clever cliché indeed, it serves to elicit the fact that no matter what you do in life, if you are not optimistic and positive in your approach towards life, you will never be able to enjoy and live to the fullest.

Curiosity killed the cat” – cats have this unquenchable curiosity, they are always going on investigating their surroundings.  This cliché warns people against getting too nosy (I know quite a lot of those kind of folks…).

Last but not least, “if you love something, set it free” – this is such a wonderful thought; this cliché means that love cannot be imposed on anyone and that you cannot make someone love you.

For more interesting and rather funny clichés, visit www.buzzle.com/articles/popular-cliches.html

Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses

“Sometimes our greatest strengths comes from our greatest weaknesses” – unknown

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Being the steadfast perfectionist and optimist that I am, (irritably so sometimes I do admit…) I want to swing this blog topic around and in doing so give it a more positive twist.

Our greatest strengths could very well be our greatest weaknesses and just like a chain is only as strong as its weakest link, so too are we as humans because we tend to allow our fears and our vulnerabilities to over cloud our true capabilities.  I am a perfectionist and I see this as one of my personal strengths whereas somebody else would probably perceive this as being snobbish or controlling – my strength vs. my weakness.

Take a moment to ask yourself, “What makes ME great”? The answers you come up with are bound to place you in a better space and boost your self-confidence a little.  

In essence, make the most of every situation instead of sulking because there is a balance to everything in the world.  For every weakness, there is also a definite strength – it is what you choose to do with your weaknesses is what should matter most.  When life gives you lemons, make lemonade  🙂